The City Sage: A New Chapter

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November 26, 2012


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Girl, you got so much talent you will be fine!

I'm excited to follow along on your next adventure - I'm sure that once in awhile, some days will be scary or sad, but I admit I'm slightly jealous of your clean slate :)

Hannah B.

This summer I spent the 1st stretch of time by myself when my husband went to NYC for 4.5 months for an internship. Quiet times are hard, but you're stronger than you think. And this introspection that's happening right now will change your life forever for the better... I just know it!
xo* ~Hannah B.


I think it should be mandatory for everyone to live by themselves for, at the very least, a few months. It will certainly be scary at first, but you'll learn so much. Enjoy this adventure! x


I love this post. I started my fall with big dreams, but slowly, the everyday blah of life has picked them apart. I feel a little like I need a clean slate. Your changes are inspiring and I'm really looking forward to whatever's in store.

My Latest Excuse

It looks like your new place gets great light! When you feel scared about what's next, those beautimous windows could be a gentle reminder of the lovely bits of sun that make life (even the unknown parts) warm and bright.

andrea nicole

i love this post. and i share many (MANY) of those same thoughts and thought patterns. just want you to know how inspirational you are to a whole mess of people. hang in there on your transition.

Nikki Rappaport

What an honest post. I think you're going to find some great things out of this fresh start. It's an amazing feeling to know you can do things on your own even if you don't want to. Can't wait to see how this new adventure inspires you!


i feel you girl, it's like i could have written this post. same reason i haven't posted a blog in months. different, but same feelings. the time i spent living by myself in my tiny apartment was the best, i loved it. you will too. i'm not sure how to beat the fear, it feels paralyzing sometimes. just be easy on yourself.

mary @ B&Gjournals

first of all, can't believe you have always posted everyday on your blog, that is so impressive. secondly, i love that you limited yourself to what would fit in your car--the ability to let yourself have clean slates, to start a new is exciting, inspiring and courageous. and a little bit of anxiety or fear along the way just makes you human. so glad i've recently found your blog and excited to see you build new chapters in LA.

Cori Magee

Congrats on your big move and best of luck settling in. Keep moving forward, never doubt yourself! xo


What a touching post... I totally understand being scared but I truly admire the guts and determination it took you to move. Don't think I could ever be so brave - for this alone you are going to do just fine and I think exciting things are definitely on the horizon for you x

Micaela // Drifter & the Gypsy

What a wonderfully honest post. I often feel the same way as you. Be brave. It'll all work out in the end. I'm sure of that :)


Thi is so interesting to see how different people are in their life! I am used to live alone and I love it. However I am pretty sure I will be terrified at first when I will move in with someone (whoever he might be).
I am positive you will learn a lot in this new chapter and find your new situation empowering, fulfilling and rewarding.


I love this post. It's not easy starting over and it's a scary thing to face so much change at one time. But it can make all of the difference in the world and my life in infinitely better. Keep your head up!

Kel Cadet

The bravest is not the one that is able to scream the loudest, but able to hear the tiniest whisper from within and listen to it...even if the actions follow it disrupt that which is comfortable and familiar. -me

You, love, are brave.

Kelly Lynn Jones

I totally know the feelings you have right now and have been there not so long ago. So excited for you and your new move to LA. It is an amazing city. Best of luck and hope to see you in LA one of these days!

Lesley Myrick

We're practically neighbors now, so if you ever need anything you know how to reach me. Proud of you for making such a bold change. xox

Annie McElwain

Living on your own is wonderful. It all works out neighbor.


wishing you the very best in this new phase anne, i know you'll kick ass!


I understand. So completely and entirely. I understand with every fiber of my being and every fear that still exists quietly among the folds of my own heart. The tail end of 2011 and the majority of 2012 was the scariest period of my life. Finally I feel like I am coming out from under a cloud and feeling more like me than I have, well, ever. Fear can be paralyzing, but it can also be incredibly liberating. If I had let fear consume me I'd have stayed where I was doing what I was doing. But I believed in more and I believed in better and I believed in me. So I had to look fear in the face and push through to the other side. You're not going to be ok. You're going to be brilliant. Sending so many hugs your way! xoxoxo


Thank you for the honest post. I think we forget that everyone goes through similar events in their lives when we see them online day in and day out. It's nice to know we're all human--- self doubt and fear are what hold me back more times than I'd like to admit. I would have never known this about you until today without this post. You seem to always have it going I have no doubt you will push on through and continue to do great things. Everything happens for a reason and makes us who we are!


Girl! So proud of you! I can't wait to talk to you three years from now, and read this post, and see how amazingly far you have come out of fear. Keep walking one foot in front of the other! xo


Love you.

my favorite and my best- MFAMB to you

you are growing.


The Best Is Yet To Come....

Erin Taylor

Love you Anne! You are talented, beautiful and hilarious! You have and will continue to do the most amazing things in your life! BIG changes make for even bigger accomplishments! Plus if you get board you can make me bread he he he

Nicole Henley

Wow, you brought it all back for me. I remember that fear very well after I moved here from Colorado. And the equal parts of what felt like excited pseudo-confidence. Welcome to LA and I wish you the best. Embrace the small moments where you can almost see the future your building. And just enjoy every new thing about this experience. Eventually that all-consuming fear will become a whisper.


Remember -- just "20 seconds of courage" will help you move onto the next step.

laura parke

i admire your honesty, anne. it is scary to go out and do new things and depend on ourselves, but it's also so rewarding. and you'll most likely surprise and delight yourself in the wonder of what you're capable of. cheers to new adventures!

Jane Flanagan

I've been alone and terrified for more than 15 years. I don't know what to tell you, other than that you will come to love the fear in some ways and to overcome it in others and to identify yourself with it and to defy it. And it will be the making of you in ways you can't fathom. And, you're not really alone because look at all these comments. xx

wishful nals

thank you for your honesty. i've been in a similar space lately, and these words are so comforting to let twirl around in my head. thank you. keep on doing what you do best, and know that little by little, it will get better. for whatever it is worth, sending good vibes your way. xo

Kelly Oshiro

Congrats Anne on making the leap and making a new life for yourself. As for literature, I loved Villette by Charlotte Bronte. Seriously some of the best writing about aloneness out there... “But afterwards, is there nothing more for me in life - no true home - nothing to be dearer to me than myself?"


Hey love,

I saw the Georgia O'Keefe quote you posted on twitter earlier and definitely identified with it. I naturally, all my life, have had a LOT of anxiety. No matter what my situation is, good or bad, I seem to live in fear of all these tiny and large things. All the time.

But that quote is SO right. I recently had a little epiphany moment and realized that these things define me and have helped get me where I am and where I will be. I push through each and every day. It's a different drive than most people, but I think it's a good thing in the end. We'll be fine, always. :)



“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.”
― Robert F. Kennedy

You will be fine!!! Love you xxx


You are amazing and LA will love you :)

sarah sherman samuel

Congrats on the new space and conquering some fears while you are at it! So excited to have you in LA. What an exciting time for you. xo

robin pulsifer

anne, you are talented, beautiful and positive in your thoughts and in your outlook. everyone has days where that goes out the window, but the fact that you can, like georgia o'keefe says, never let it stop you, then you will make it through anything my friend ;)

i feel a post like this myself coming on i'll tell ya! wish we could meet for coffee for crying out loud! oh, and i have a favorite quote on my blog, my motto, by ayn rand that says "the question isn't who is going to let me, it's who is going to stop me." don't let anything stop you. thinking of you girl!


Something I remind myself of often:

“Beyond the very extreme of fatigue and distress, we may find some amounts of ease and power we never dreamed ourselves to own; sources of strength never taxed at all because we never push through obstruction.”

- quote by William James

Rachel (heart of light)

Congrats on the big change, lady! You'll thrive here.

P.S. - Happy hour sometime?


Don't forget that fear is a natural feeling that also sharpens our senses and clears our vision! You will make it! We all went through such a phase! Hugs from Germany!


We miss you here in S.F.! Congrats on fighting through the fear. Sounds like you're not letting it paralyze you from doing the things you think are best, which is more than most people can say. xx

Adrianna from A Cozy Kitchen

Learning how to be alone has been one of the hardest and scariest, most important things I've gone through in the last few years. Change is so uncomfortable but I kind of think that if you're nice and open, it can yield some pretty awesome results. Holler! xo

Uncle Beefy

With all these comments it's clear that... you're not alone and plenty of us are here rooting for you, Miss Anne. I'm right there with you on both counts. And, Melissa's quote is one that I'll be taking with me as well. Love and spectacular wishes being sent your way! xo UB :)


Your authenticity and bravery are inspiring. Sending positive thoughts your way as you turn over a new leaf.

P.S. A lot of us are transitioning, too. You're not alone. Hang in there!


I've never seen your blog until this very day and what a post to stumble upon. I am in a very similar situation and just last night decided to write/blog about it.

I hope to read about your new life and it gives me hope for mine.


Love the OKeefe quote! Good luck with your new adventure! I found LA to be very conducive to creating a new life! Paula


Moving into a new home has a way of shifting one's core foundation. Love the quote by Georgia O'Keefe. This one offers great insight:

"Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth." ~ Pema Chodron

Great fear, great courage. Breathe through it.. Beautiful honest post. All the best, Marjory


Lean into it all, sister! You can do this...xoxo

Irene Turner

Hi Anne,
Oh I've been where you are! Such big life changes and yes, it is scary. All I can tell you is when you do come out on the other side life will be soooooo awesome you won't even believe it!
I was 28 at the time I went through it, and now at 55 I can tell you,it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Here is the quote that helped me through my dark times, I hope it helps you and am sending you good luck hugs from Sebastopol!

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us: it's in everyone. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

- Nelson Mandela & Marianne Williamson

Kristen Westergaard

I bet you've inspired a lot of people with this post. We live in a world that demands we share only our confidence and success- a demand that keeps us from sharing the truth of our lives with others. Thank you for a post proving that, even on the internet, there is more to talk about than what makes us look good.

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